Love is…

Visalia First
February 25, 2017
02/26/2017 Visalia First: Love Is…
By: Mike D. Robertson
Lead Pastors | Mike & Karen Robertson


John 15:9-17 (RSV)
“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you; abide in my love. If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide; so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. This I command you, to love one another.”
God brings people into our lives for a Reason.

Cloud- Power of Another.
Navy Seals – hell Week
Weare fear fully and wonderfully made.
Thank you lord for making me. Me.
God gave me Craig so I can practice Agape love.

God didn’t design us to take our entire family with us everywhere wego.


Science of Connection

Body – Brain – Relationships
sometimes we isolate ourselves.
We go Crazy without relationships
Internet creates false relationships .
( Dr. Dobson used to say the same thing. )
To get to the next level, you have to think differently
Think more about why people are attracted to you .

Science of Connection


Science of Connection


Four Types of Relationships

2. Friends for a SEASON.

Four Types of Relationships

1. Friends for a REASON.

Four Types of Relationships

3. Friends of TREASON.
Samson + Delilah
Samson Was thirsty for relationship . Sleeping with the enemy –
Relationships were dysfunctional

Why do We do the unhealthy things when we Know it is bad? – Relationships

Four Types of Relationships

4. Friends for LIFE.
who feeds me?

Friends for LIFE.

a. Friends for life are who FEED me, not just need me.
Parents give up their lives for their children .

But they aren’t the only friends we need. why so many couples divorce when the kids leave.

Friends for LIFE.

b. Friends for life are those who UNLOCK the king or queen on the inside of me.
David and Nable
jump in the lake swallow a snake and get a bellyache.


Father, forgive me, for I can be so judgemental at times. I have even judged the Pastor for not returning my greeting.  AND gossiped about it. 

I have judged anothers actions and justified it by having discernment.

From Wordfast devo 


There are a small number of crucial issues in the Christian life foundational to walking in peace and fruitfulness before the Lord and with people. Rightsizing words of judgment are near the top of the list. This issue affects almost every area of our lives: friendships, marriage, children, work, and ministry. Understanding this key issue can be the difference between being a fruitful disciple of Jesus or a defeated spectator of the Christian faith. This issue encapsulates the fullness of Jesus’s teachings in Luke 6:27-38 that we receive back more than we give to others, good and bad.

What does it really mean to judge someone?

Here are the two ways we judge others: when you see someone’s actions and you make an estimate as to the value or worth of that person, or when you think you know why he did what he did.

Here’s an example. The pastor races by you on his way to do something at church. He doesn’t catch a hello or greeting sent to him as he whizzes by. What is your immediate response? Are you gracious or do you respond with a judgment that draws a conclusion about how insensitive and unfriendly he is? Do you compound it further with gossip by mentioning to someone else how unfriendly your pastor was today?

What audacity to think that we know what is on someone’s mind. There is one judge, and He is altogether righteous and able to see into the hearts of men and women. We are not that judge; Christ is.

When you judge others, you are in deception. The problem with deception is, you don’t realize you’re being deceived. You think the sky is red, but everyone around you knows the sky is blue. You would swear on your life the sky is red; it isn’t. Could there be a minute possibility, an outside chance existing in your wildest imagination, that there may be a tiny prospect you are wrong? When you are in deception, you answer that question with a vehement no.

When we think we know a person’s motivation for saying or doing something, or we ascribe to a person’s worth, we are judging—we are playing God—we are deceived. Of the multitude of circumstances in life we can find ourselves in, this is the one not to be found in: playing God in people’s lives and judging them.


Criticism I believe we dramatically underestimate the power of negative words, especially when it comes to criticism. But Scripture is quite clear about the power of these words, teaching us they are devastating to our spirit (Prov. 15:14).
So who would purposefully choose to be a critical person? It means you can never relax and enjoy anything. You’re always on the lookout to find fault in whatever is happening around you at any given moment. You look for the worst and miss the best. What’s more, it makes you and everyone around you miserable. No one likes to be around a faultfinder, a person who is critical about everything.
If we develop a habitual critical view of life, we always respond the same way when presented with any opportunity, problem, challenge, or new relationship. We respond with a quick evaluation and synopsis of what can go wrong. It becomes second nature to criticize and find fault; it comes as effortlessly as breathing. Speaking of which, I will never forget an incident when all of my managers were gathered for a crucial presentation given by a seasoned consulting group. Their credentials and experience were impressive. They had proven success in addressing the serious issues we were facing. But following their recommendations, one of my key people responded with his normal critical assessment: “It will not work here.”
How does one become a critical person? For many of us, difficult life experiences as a child or young adult can easily cast us in the role of victim. We feel sorry for ourselves, pity ourselves, and begin the descent into the only role where we think we can get ahead of others: the critic.
The worst part of being critical is that we make authority figures the target of our foulest criticism. The level of criticism levied at figures of authority is disgraceful, and Christians don’t seem to comprehend the damage done when they act like the world with criticism and negative comments. No one is immune to the blasts of criticism, from our pastor to the president; we are often unrelenting.
There is only one appropriate response in coming to the recognition that you are being critical or have criticism in your heart toward another person. That response is to confess the criticism for what it is: sin. Confessing my sin of criticism and judgment to another person is humbling and, most important, freeing.